I believe all people are drawn to whatever actions make them feel good, and fulfilled. That is, at least if your primary motivation isn't fear.
What bugs me is the "judgment," along with the underlying idea that there is some kind of "standard" way to live what the world considers a good life. A proper life. A life that is "emotionally healthy." But I always end up at the same starting point:
WHO decides?
And what makes THEM an "authority" on other people's lives... other people who are NOT LIKE THEM?
In those questions lie a large part of the reason why so much conventional therapy is doomed to failure. Most therapists lack the insight, or skills, or non-attachment to truly view their clients outside their own lenses of perception. Inevitably, what the client "should" do is filtered by the therapist's perceptions and experience. That is, with the exceptions of the tiny percentage of therapists who truly are clued in...
I like sitting still. I like "not doing much." I don't have a FEAR of doing... it's just that "doing" doesn't feel very good; I don't get a positive brain reward for "doing" the way I do for "not doing."
Some would hold that something is "wrong" with me, or I am "not normal" for a desire to not do.
Perhaps true, from a "majority perspective," but who is to say that a desire to "do" is the de-facto standard of behavior for ALL human beings?
